Katie asks :
Hi Lucy,
My boyfriend is at university and when I went to visit him, I overheard a conversation by his friends that he was involved in a stripping game and that it was his idea. I've confronted him and he's said its not true but why would they say it otherwise? I don't know what to do as it's eating me in inside.
Our Reply
Hi Katie,
His friends may well have been joking- they might have known that you were listening and so played up to it, not knowing that you would react so badly. A prank that has backfired, perhaps.
If you have confronted your boyfriend and he is adamant nothing of the sort happened, then you might have to take him at his word. If you trust him and he has done nothing like this before then it may be a case of trying to move on and forget it was said.
The reason that you are probably finding it hard to get past it is because you don’t know what actually happened. No matter how much you grill your boyfriend about, it you will never know exactly what did. All that you have to go on is how much you respect each other to tell the truth.
Relationships are about having faith in the other person to tell you the truth. If you don’t trust him now that you are living apart, then maybe it’s time to talk about the state of your relationship and whether you can carry on as you are.
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