Hi Tyler,

The simple fact is if you don’t tell him he will never know and you will always be left wondering- ‘what if?’ If it is mere attraction and not a deep love, then if things don’t work out the way you want them too, there is not a lot lost because you can fancy someone without it affecting your friendship.

If you were head over heels in love with him then that might be harder to recover from. If you have been friends for so long and you give this a try then chances are you will be ok if you decide that you were better as friends.

Have you had any indication that this is reciprocated? If so then it may be worth pursuing. Why not just talk to him about your feelings. Perhaps tell him that you are attracted to him and see how he responds from there. If he seems to like the comment then that will give you the confidence to then suggest taking things further but if he seems unhappy about it then maybe leave it alone.

Many partnerships blossom from being friends first and it is a risk but if you both know how much the relationship means to each other then you won’t let something like this get in the way if friends is the best option for you both.

Lucy x