Hi Megan,

It sounds like you are conflicted between your feelings for him but also your own need to have some control in the relationship.

If you have spoken about it many times before and nothing has changed, then perhaps it’s time to be a bit more forthcoming with your needs. Rather than telling him how it’s affecting you and waiting for him to change- perhaps make a decision and let him fit around it. If you book a table at a restaurant when you know he's free and he can’t move things around to fit in with you, then maybe he is not making you a priority. If he doesn’t see you at all that week as a consequence, then perhaps he will learn to make a bigger effort next time- or he might see you even less.  

If he is restricting you on even the smaller things, it sounds like he has quite a controlling personality. If you feel already that this is an issue then before any serious commitments are made, it might be wise to readdress the balance so you are both equal in the relationship. If you let him continue in the way you are now- it might only get worse and you could feel trapped.

If this is still causing problems then I would suggest couple’s counselling so you can explore why he feels the need to make all the plans and why you want this to change. If this still doesn’t work then it might be time to find someone who wants to see you more regularly and who is happy to share the decisions with you.