Sadie asks :
Hiya Lucy!
Okay so I kissed this guy I have a history with more than once at a party. He's never said he liked me and he hasn't spoken to anyone about it even though everybody saw and thought it was strange because of our recent record of fall outs in the past. He's just laughed it off as a joke but it seems really strange to me that he only seemed to want to kiss me even though he was more than capable of kissing anyone else at that party and that we only seem to get on best when we're drunk but when we're sober he can’t seem to talk to me and me neither to him. I do have feelings for the guy but I have no idea what is going through his head?
Our Reply
Hi Sadie,
It might be that he is shy and that he is using alcohol to give him the courage to do the things he really wants to- like kiss you. That said if you can only communicate without arguing when you have had a drink it could be the wrong foot to get off on. The temptation is to always dink when you are around each other which could create a dependency rather than both just being yourself.
If you already know that when you are sober you don’t really get on then that could be a warning sign telling you that perhaps it’s not meant to be. What do you fall out over? If they are trivial things then maybe it’s just that both of you don’t want to admit that you do actually like each other. If it is big things that you can’t agree on and you don’t see either of you ever agreeing on them- this could be a deal breaker. Good couples generally have a lot of the same values and morals or things can ultimately crumble as a consequence.
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