Helen asks :

Hi Lucy,

I have been with my partner for two years. He has been so much fun and I love being with him when we spend time with each other. He lives on his own and is divorced with two kids. His been through some really tough stuff during his break up and although I don’t like to grudge people his ex-wife seems really nasty. The thing is that’s concerning me that before he meet me (on internet dating site) he git chatting to two women both that work where he work although he only goes there to collect patients and drop them off. He has told me about both of them which I appreciate as we don’t want to keep secrets from each other. However the other day his phone received a text message and he told me that it was one of them and he had never received a text from her up til now. He looked genuinely shocked. He texted her back and he let me read it and it was appropriate response. However she keeps texting so I told him that he needs to tell her that he has a partner. He met up with her one morning and laid his cards on the table. She told him all about her past which he told her he didn’t want to know. And then asked if it’s ok just to be friends. His reply was yes. I can’t help but feel jealous and slightly betrayed. I think she has been texting but can’t be sure as I have looked on his logs on phone but no unknown numbers appear even though the light on his mobile turns on to indicate a message. Am I right to be paranoid or shall I act cool and wait tell he mentions anything???? She is younger than both of us.