Hi Laura,

If you tell your boyfriend then this might not help the trust issue, however if you don’t can you live with holding it back from him? Or can you trust yourself to not do it again?

Perhaps the answer is not to get as drunk when you are out. If you know that this is the catalyst for flirting and cheating on your partner, then maybe dial things back a bit so you can look at a situation like the one that’s passed with a clear head.

Perhaps if you don’t want to throw it all away because of your kids, then your partner might think the same and try to find a way past this with you. However it is likely that whatever behaviour you were demonstrating the night you kissed another man, you might need to control better or the same could happen again and the trust could be shattered forever.

You likely know him better than anyone so how do you feel he will react? Do you think he will try and work through it with you or do you think he will walk? Perhaps the question to ask yourself is if he had done the same would you want to know?