Ally asks :
Hi Lucy,
I don't know whether a guy I've known for nearly 5 years is interested in me or just being nice. Normally I'm good with these things but he sends me mixed signals. I'm 22 I've been in a relationship for 4 years which is going sour. I only see this guy a few times a year, he's my dentist and there's a large age difference he's 18 years older. Ever since I've seen him he's always flirted with me, grabbing my bum, sayin if he was younger, even going as far as to comment on my sex life but he's never taken it any further. When I saw him recently I realised that I have feelings for him but I don't know whether he's interested still he's aware that I've got a boyfriend and advises me to leave him. He's always single when I see him and I don't know what I should do. Is he interested or is he this way with everyone I don't know. I just feel confused as he could of approached me when I was 18 and I asked whether I should go out with my now boyfriend of 4 years but he didn't.
Hi Ally,
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Perhaps the reason you are looking at something to happen with this guy is because your relationship is going sour. Maybe your boyfriend does not flirt with you anymore so you have found somewhere else to and it reminds you of how you felt when you were first together.
That said, he sounds like he is very confident at chatting up women- the things he has done- grabbing you bum and talking about your sex life are very bold moves when he knows that you have a boyfriend.
He could have approached you when you were single yes, which could mean that he either likes the challenge or believes that you won’t leave your boyfriend and so the flirtation is harmless.
If you existing relationship is sour and you feel that you want to leave anyway then maybe see if there is something in it then, but be prepared that he might be always single for reason. If you were to date, who is to say that he would not act in the same way with other women behind your back?
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