Hi Claudia,

Being popular is not the be all and end all. It can often result in attracting the wrong kind of boy.

Perhaps you are focusing on the popular guys to go out with and maybe you should look at those like yourself that prefer to take a step back and not be in the limelight so much.

You are much better off if you aim to find someone who is on your wavelength as you will have more in common and understand each other better.

If being the centre of attention is not for you- then don’t push yourself to be something you are not- if you prefer to take a quieter approach then embrace it and look for someone who shares the same sentiments.

If you are looking for the wrong kind of guy, this can be a confidence knocker as you will likely never meet in the middle. Look around you at the people in your class who you perhaps don’t know a lot about and try to make conversation. If you are on the quiet side I’m sure there will be boys who are attracted to you and what to get to know you better.

Be grateful to have the option of a  more understated relationship- if you were to go out with a popular guy- then your relationship would be under constant scrutiny- so you can have the best chance at a successful relationship without everyone else’s involvement.

Lucy x