Yinee asks :
Hi Lucy,
My husband has not talked to me for the past 3 months, he is always stressed about his job.
Hi Yinee,
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Men are instinctively unsettled when something is going wrong at work. It is inbuilt that they are the providers and it is hard to escape this evolutionary role. If work is not going well, especially if he is providing for you or a family, then he might feel he is failing to keep things together.
If he won’t talk to you, then perhaps approach him. If he is stressed then perhaps he has some things he needs to get off his chest. If you listen, that is all you can really do, other than take the pressure off at home.
Usually these periods of stress don’t last forever, they are generally a short sharp burst, between times of normality. I would suggest being patient with him until he comes out of this and offering as much support as you can. If it becomes a long term thing and he can't cope with the strain, then perhaps talk to him about getting some professional help or changing his role or his job altogether.
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