Dave asks :
Hi Lucy,
A girl I really liked was out on a night out a few weeks ago and she was aware how I felt. She asked me to go and meet her because she was really drunk and on her own! When I got there she was in a really drunk state and here's me being totally sober felt it was my duty to look after her, she tried it on with me and told me she really liked me but then fell over!? I helped her up and she asked me to get her home so I rang a taxi, then she tried it on again! I didn't want to take advantage so when I didn't go for it she rang one of my mates to give her a lift home and tried it on with him, when we were at hers she told him she wanted him and I meant nothing to her! He refused but when I got told by my mate who also knocked her back, it hurt a bit, and she claims she can’t remember any of it?! When I tried to explain I was upset and a bit annoyed she was a bit shocked but couldn't understand why I was reading so much into it? She then blocked me on Snapchat and Facebook which I found a bit pathetic but now she won't talk to me at all? What should I do?
Our Reply
Hi Dave,
It sounds like this girl is unsure of who she wants- she might have been drunk, however if she is naturally indecisive then a bit of drink is only going to exacerbate things.
It seems that she might have taken advantage of knowing that you like her. It is admirable that you didn’t try to take advantage of the situation, especially as she would not have remembered things anyway.
If she knows that you like her then she might have assumed that you would take things further- however the situation and her state of mind seem to have dictated otherwise.
If she has blocked you over social made then perhaps leave her alone for a while. She may just be embarrassed that you didn’t want to become affectionate with her, when she thought that it was a guarantee that you would.
If she really likes you then she might make the effort to apologise to you. If you were not the only guy to knock her back that night then it seems it was mutually agreed upon that she was not sober enough to remember, let alone enjoy any physical contact you might have had.
She may have tried it on with your friend to make you jealous, but it begs the question; do you want to be with someone who acts like this only to get your attention?
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