Most Common Relationship Myths Busted

24 June 2013

Most Common Relationship Myths Busted

Relationships don’t come easy and what may work for one couple doesn’t always work for another.

Dating agency Bowes-Lyon Partnership have let us in on the most common relationship myths and have given us some tips to set you straight.

1. A good relationship means not having to work at it

This myth is very damaging for many couples. Some believe that just because it is wonderful, relaxed and easy at the beginning, in the traditional ‘honeymoon period’ it will continue to be as great without them putting in the work further down the line.

Relationships require sacrifice and compromise, and one of the signs that this is going awry is if one party is feeling unhappy more often than not.

Relationships are like gardens: you wouldn’t expect them to blossom without love, attention and plenty of hard work through the rough patches.

2. Jealousy means that you care

Incorrect. Jealousy is often a projection of an individual’s own insecurities onto their other half. This is also something that cannot be rectified by attention or showering someone with love; in fact, this can often arouse suspicion in those who are insecure.

Both members of a relationship must ensure they are relationship ready before they enter into a long-term commitment; this means shedding their jealousy issues and becoming confident in their own skin.

3. Love means passion will never fade

The belief that passion is an everlasting pool from which couples can draw from can be a harmful one.

Movies, romance novels and love songs would have us believe that every day should feel like a whirlwind of intense emotion, but daily routine and the combined stress of careers, families and relationships can often mean entirely the opposite.

Passion naturally diminishes over time, and it is unrealistic to believe that someone will be as crazy about their other half twenty years down the line as they were the day they met.

Passion doesn’t have to be a constant, all-encompassing thing, but with a little work, couples can reignite the passion in their relationships often rather than letting it become unromantic and detached.