With online dating becoming increasingly popular, many women are now logging on to see if they'll hit it off with a guy online. 'Getting to know' someone through our inboxes is now becoming somewhat of the norm, and those email notifications telling us 'you've got mail' can add to the excitement when first dating. It has been proven that people do and can easily develop feelings for a person they've met online, even before they've even met in person.
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Skype chats can provide a temporary substitute for the void of being in the presence of someone face to face.
Programs such as Catfish have proven that this can often lead to very disappointing and sometimes heartbreaking consequences.
Katie a PA from London, was speaking to a guy online for 3 months. And admitting to developing feelings for him, she really thought she may have found the one. But without the previously thought out emails and in a real life setting, she was left devastated when she discovered, they just didn't hit it off. After investing so much time, energy and emotions into what was really a virtual relationship.
Katie is not alone, as many women accept excuses for not meeting in person to a guy they meet through dating sites and continue to invest time in maintaining regular contact online, for weeks, months and sometimes even years!
The time invested is sometimes not as apparent as actually going out on dates, the hours pass so much easier when you're sat on your laptop or typing away on your phone. But before you know it, time and other opportunities to meet other guys has passed you by.
Many dating sites claim to match your compatibility and chemistry with users by matching your interests, or physical appearance, but what needs to be also taken into account is the vast majority of users select what makes them sound interesting, but in reality, have they even ever been sky diving, or how often do they really go mountain hiking, or exploring the great outdoors? And as for pictures, most of us tend to use pictures which aren't exactly recent, with a poll claiming 56 per cent of online users use a picture that is over 3 years old. A lot can change in that time. And as for chemistry, we all know that can only be felt in the presence of another individual. Technology is not quite there yet.
It may feel as though you are in a relationship with the person by texting, emailing constantly, but the harsh reality is really you could just be wasting your time.
Time which could be spent sharing real smiles rather than smileys, real kisses rather than xx's on a screen, and talking without the editing.
If you've spent more than two weeks talking to someone online, and a date hasn't been arranged beware that you could be falling into the trap of a virtual relationship, which in the real world doesn't give you much Kudos at all.
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