We talk to Clarivu body language expert Robert Phipps about the importance of eye contact when you are dating this Valentine’s day!
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Why do people say that the ‘eyes are windows to the soul’?
This is a traditional saying that has been around for years but in the context of dates, eyes really can unveil a lot about your partner’s true feelings.
Why is eye contact so important on a date?
Eye contact is considered more important on a first date as both parties are looking for signs that the other is interested, truthful before committing to anything further. It’s when we're testing the water!
Why do so many people make sure that they maintain eye contact?
This is a cultural thing as not all cultures deem maintaining eye contact as respectful; it is considered the complete opposite in some parts of the world, Japan, China some parts of the Arab world.
The new Clarivu research shows that 93 per cent of Brits make a deliberate effort to maintain eye contact to emphasise that they are interested in their date.
Why are eyes such an appealing thing to be attracted to on your date?
The eyes give away so many clues as to how we feel about any given situation that's why we give them such credence, as well as the fact we actually take in 82% of our information through the eyes, 7% through our ears and only 11% through the other senses of which there are more than the standard five most people refer to.
What can a lack of eye contact mean for the date?
Disinterest, lack of respect, looking around for something more interesting or just plain nervousness. The Clarivu research shows that we Brits are a suspicious lot – 36 per cent of women think the men are nor trustworthy if they do not make eye contact.
Why do more women than men think that their date is not trustworthy if they don’t make eye contact?
Women as a general rule are far more aware of the non-verbal cues than men are, the reason being through evolution women have played the nurturer roles so have to have a better awareness of children and any possible dangers to them. Also most women have a wider peripheral vision than men.
Why is staring disliked so much on dates?
The staring eyes are considered intrusive because unconsciously everyone knows exactly how long they can look at another person before it becomes uncomfortable for one or other party. It can also be considered domineering and forceful as you are trying to make the other person look away, which puts the control with the starer.
What does a wink imply on a date?
You know what I mean, a shared secret or alternative meaning to something that's been said.
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