So you and your boyfriend are all happy and loved up and spend endless nights talking about when you’re going to move in together, where you would like to see yourselves in 5 years’ time. But out of nowhere your fairy-tale future is tarnished when your 4 year relationship comes to an end.
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You just want to move on and get on with your life, but there’s that one big problem, your ex is constantly scattered all over your news feeds whether it be Twitter or Facebook, and you just can’t seem to get rid!
If you are an avid user of social network sites but you don’t want to be constantly reminded that your ex is ‘having the best time of his life’ or when he took ‘that girl’ out the other night, so what can we do to really let go of the past? Here are a few tips to get you started:
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If the break-up is still fresh and you are holding a bit of a grudge, after all you didn’t want to end things! Then whatever you do, DO NOT change your relationship status straight away. Ok, you may want to show him that you’re ‘not really bothered anyway,’ but the last thing you need is people asking you a million and one questions with endless ‘what happened?’ phrases. Also, you will receive many sympathy comments, and this may make you a little upset. So it’s best just to avoid the whole changing status until another time.
Delete, delete, delete!!
No I am not talking about him; I’m talking about deleting ALL the pictures of you both from any social network account. This may be hard to start with, as reminiscing back at the ‘good times’ will only get you upset, but it will definitely be worthwhile as you will not receive any unexpected comments or ‘likes’ on the photos of you both. I’m not saying you have to delete the pictures for good, but by getting rid of them on your social network accounts it will make it that little bit easier to make a fresh start.
Don’t get even over updates
‘Getting excited for the party tonight with all my friends!’ or ‘Last night was great, met a lot of new and interesting people, about time!’ These are the kind of comments that will prove nothing to your ex. It will not win him back. Okay, so he’s constantly writing about his ‘fabulous’ life but by now he probably thinks you are actually happy and content in what you are doing with your life. So it’s time to stop typing away and just get on with life and enjoy doing your own thing.
Block him out of your life
In a midst of anger you will go to delete him out of your life for good. You get to his page and ohhh something has caught your eye, he was at your favourite nightclub last night and you noticed that there are photos of the night out. You find yourself noseying through the majority of the pictures and comments that have been posted so for now you decide just to ‘un-friend’ him. Stop right there! This is just as bad as keeping him on your social accounts, as you can always click back onto his account whenever you feel like it, and you will find yourself doing it more often than not. The best thing to do is just block him from any contact. This way, you will never see or read anything that he writes online.
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