Juggling a career and commitments to spending time with family and friends, a common complaint among singles is often ‘I don’t have time for love’. But deep down, although our schedules may be full, there comes a time when we feel the void that only love can fill.
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With limited time to socialise, we are now looking at non-traditional ways to find love.
Ten years ago, it was often assumed that only awkward, shy recluses would hide behind a screen to find love online, or only desperados would go to a speed dating event.
Now, modern men and women are happy to explore more convenient ways to find that special someone. Online dating is something we’re increasing trying, with a significant increase in online dating members over the past 3 years.
And speed dating is no longer something to be ashamed of, rather a convenient way to increase our chances of meeting The One, but can you tell if you like someone after a 3 minute chat?
Well, research suggests that although we may not all believe in love at first sight, attraction is pretty instant, and you can usually tell after asking a few questions whether the person stimulates your interest or not.
Of course it can be a bit hit and miss, as you don’t know who you’re going to meet, but if finding love is a numbers game, then meeting 20 people in one night, you’re more likely to find at least a few people you’d hit it off with rather than taking your chances on being approached by one or two people in a bar.
You also don’t have the pressure of having to give your number to someone on the spot, as the hosts will only give out your contact details after the event, once you’ve confirmed if you have an interest in meeting up again.
Not only will you meet members of the opposite sex but you may make some new friends, who may also have some friends they’d like to introduce you to.
If you fancy taking your chances and giving it a try here’s a few tips to help you get the most out of the night.
- Be confident, everyone’s there for the same reason as you, so no need to feel embarrassed or shy.
- Sit upright, give a strong hand shake, and make eye contact with those you’re speaking with.
- Make sure you feel fresh, you’ll feel much more confident speaking to someone when you know you smell good. (Don’t overdo it on the fragrance though, subtle not over powering)
- Think of the kind of questions you may want to ask beforehand. Think of it as an initial interview, but don’t be too probing, questions shouldn’t be too intrusive.
- Don’t ask the same questions to each person, switch it up or it will feel too repetitive.
- Come with a friend, it will make you feel more relaxed.
- Don’t talk about your Ex. Instant turn off!
- Go with an open mind.
- Wear a smile
Have you been to a speed dating event before? What were your experiences? Let us know by commenting below or tweeting us @FemaleFirst_UK, or tweet Siobhan @Siobhan_Copland
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