If you want to have fantastic sex then you need to get things heated up with some foreplay. Some men will try their best to get this stage out of the way as fast as possible but you need to be firm.
It's essential that you take time to get all the sensual hot spots warmed up before you go for the main event. There's no point in jumping straight in all guns blazing because it simply won't feel as good.
Also by missing out on foreplay your also depriving yourself of an easy peasy orgasm. Just 15 mins of touching, kissing and licking in the right places will have you screaming with pleasure.
If your guy is a bit reluctant (or just plain rubbish) when it comes to foreplay then don't be shy about giving him a helping hand. Most men will find it a total turn on to watch a girl enjoy herself so why not suprise him with a solo show one night. Not only will you get to enjoy yourself the way you know best but you will also give him a few hints about what feels good for you.
If he still insists on rushing things then be assertive. Tell him to slow down. Reassure him he will get everything on the menu eventually but you want to enjoy the starter for a bit longer first.