Are you having an emotional affair?

Are you having an emotional affair?

You may never be the type to have sex with another man. You are in love with your partner and you have never been nor ever would be unfaithful. There are, however, other ways you are betraying your significant other without even realising. These small but poisonous things could lead to an affair, even if you never intended them to.

Unfaithfulness can be masked as other things that you thought were perfectly innocent. So we take a look at some of them.

Flirting- You may think that flirting is harmless, but by definition it suggests that there is a greater intimacy between the two people who are engaging in the act. So by doing it you are giving the other person the impression that they have a chance at something more with you.

Telling secrets to another man- You may just be looking for a crutch for a while but if you have an issue in your relationship then you need to talk to your man- talking to anyone else will not solve the problem because they are not in a position to help. If the listener are attracted to you and see a window of opportunity for you to be single again, they may give you the wrong advice.

Being alone with another man- This provides an opportunity to be unfaithful even if neither of you intended. Yes, you may be adults and both in relationships but why not wait for your partners to come home to spend time with them rather than each other? Or go out as a foursome instead?

Badmouthing your partner- Always focus on the good when talking about your partner to other people. The bad things you say can get twisted and before you know it- a mild moan about him not helping you out around the house has become reason for divorce, according to those around you. Talk to your partner before anyone else and give them a chance to give their side of the story.

Internet conversation- What you think is innocent can be tracked and thrown back in your face. Taken out of context, a conversation with a member of the opposite sex can look like you can’t talk to your partner or worse- don’t want to- about certain subjects. Why is a stranger or a distant friend more influential than the person living under the same roof as you?

Dressing provocatively- There should be only two people you dress to impress for- yourself and your partner. If you are looking for attention from other men then back track. You should only want to dress sexily for your partner or you could get unwanted attention that will make him angry and jealous and question your reason for your chosen attire.

Writing letters- Stick to celebratory cards, but nothing more- and always address it from both of you so there is no confusion about its intent.

Putting other people first- Your partner should always come first. Call your partner if you receive good or bad news as it impacts their home-life too. If you are going through a positive or a negative time- they have to live with you and support you while it’s happening, so give them the heads up. Share with them first and then tell everyone else. 


by for relationships.femalefirst.co.uk
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