How to spice up our sex life in our 60s

Yin replies

Think outside the box, or the bedroom. Chances are if you have been together a long time you will take each other for granted, try, keeping in contact over text throughout the day if you are apart, organise a picnic, or meal out. The things that worked years ago, still work today, with a little romantic gesture this will remind you of the times that used to follow. And be spontaneous, you don’t just have to have sex on the bedroom, try coming on to her in the kitchen or the living room, the surprise will trigger memories of when you used to be more adventurous in your youth when having sex.

Plan it into your life, not necessarily the sex, but a precursor to it, such as a weekend away or a date night, this way you can both leave any worries or niggles behind and both look forward to a romantic night together and who knows what will happen! 

Yang replies

Plan it into your life, not necessarily the sex, but a precursor to it, such as a weekend away or a date night, this way you can both leave any worries or niggles behind and both look forward to a romantic night together and who knows what will happen!

Remember that sex is a great exercise, so if you are wanting to become a little more active what better way than between the sheets rather on a treadmill!

Try talking about your sex life with your wife a little more. Maybe it’s been so long that embarrassment has set in and you just need to break the ice and talk about how you are feeling, chances are she is missing it to, but the habit of not having has become normal.

Little things can trigger bigger moments, so kiss her when you get in, but make it count! Try holding her hand while you are watching TV, complimenting her on how she looks, all of these little things remind her that you are still attracted to her and may get her more in the mood for more! Why not buy some new sheets, light come candles and spread some rose petals on the bed, it’s an obvious message, but shows that you have really tried to make the atmosphere more appealing for sex.