Catherine asks :
Hi, I am having an affair with a good friend of mine, I am also friends with his girlfriend. I have been friends with him all my life though. We dated in the past but it ended. He started seeing this other girl and she fell pregnant-noe they have a little girl together. We have tried ending it several times but we always find ourself back in the same place. Not being able to stay away from eachother, texting and meeting up on the sly. I know he cares for me and has great time for me. But I think the same applies to his girlfriend. I believe he doesnt want to leave her due to the implications it will have on his daughter but I think I'm really falling for him. Do I wait and see how it turns out with us, or do I end things immediately. Another major worry is if we'r caught it will end badly for everyone. I know I should end it but my heart doesn't want to. Please help.
Yin replies
What I always say when someone is having an affair is how would you feel if this was being done to you? At the moment he has the best of both worlds, a woman he is settled with, a child and you. He needs to decide, and until he does, keep out of it. If he wants to be with you he needs to break it off with your friend, if he wants to be a family with his partner, then he needs to be honest with you and stop stringing you along.
Yang replies
You are already falling for him and running the risk of getting badly hurt, when you don’t even know what his decision is. If his partner finds out that is it for your friendship with her and if he chooses her she will never let him see you again. Put the ball in his court and stop yourself from being caught up in this mess.
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