angela asks :
my boyfriend of 5 years had an affair, i knew about it but decided to wait until he finished it and now he has. i am overweight but recently lost nearly 4 stone. he says my size is an issue but when i started the weight loss he started the affair. before that our sex life was great, Now we dont have sex at all. i dont know what to do, i dont think he finds me attractive any more and to be honest i dont want to have sex after the affair.Yin replies
As much as it is going to hurt, I think you should call it a day with this man. A 5 year relationship is a big thing to throw away, but it seems that he has done it without a second thought. If he truly loved you with all of his heart, then your size would not be an issue for him and he would love you unconditionally. You can find someone to treat you a lot better than him and acheive your own goals in life without his interference or input. Just think about what you want out of life, and how you think you deserve to be treated my your man. If the way he's treating you is OK to you..then stay with him. But..I know what I think.Yang replies
The worst betrayal that this man could commit is sleeping with another woman, and he has. I don't think I would want to sleep with him again either. If he's said your weight is an issue, and he's had an affair, then why are you even considering staying in this relationship with this man, and engaging in sexual activity with him again. Get yourself some respect back and cut all ties with this man. Lose the weight - but only if it is YOU that wants to. And put your self back out there and have some fun. It's going to hurt, but I think you'd be saving yourself a lot of pain in the long run!Need Help?
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