Lauren asks :
HELP! My boyfriend of 2 and a half years and I are on a "break" so he can be single and have sex with other people. Much to my friend's disbelief I am going a long with it but should I break up with him for good? I quite like the idea of being single but I want to be with him and he wants to be with me. I just don't know how I'll handle it knowing he has done stuff with other people. Should I end it or just wait and hope for the best?
Yin replies
The trouble with being on a break is that it is undefined as to what you can and can’t do and how you should react depending on what you decide as a couple. If he is on a break to have sex with other people then this shows little respect for his relationship with you and gives him a free pass to do whatever he wants. If he wanted to be with you he would remain monogamous, so this shows that he wants to live a single life.
Yang replies
If you like the idea of being single then stay wingle and enjoy it or look for a guy who will remain faithful to you, not someone who is always looking over his shoulder for his next sexual conquest. If you did get back together it would feel awkward, knowing that he has slept with other women. It would feel like he had cheated on you rather than the arrangement you made. How do you know that if you were to go out again that he wouldn’t drop you in a few weeks to go off and have sex with another woman again? You are worth better, so treat yourself accordingly.
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