julie asks :
i am 47 years old i have 2 children 13 and 24 i have a boyfriend i have know him for 13 month i have a fantasy about having sex with a other women I am happy with my boyfriend we have spoke about it and he said go for it this is my first time please advise me what do i feel nervous not sure where to start thankyou
Yin replies
Its just a case of your sex life and possibley your life in general becoming routine and lacking variety. Is this something you will actually carry out or will it remain just a fantasy.
If you do go ahead with it then either look in the dating sections of your local newspapers, or join a dating site for same sex couples, and treat it like any other dating. Just be clear in your own mind what you want from any meetings and ensure that the other person is happy to be in the same type of relationship.
I would caution though that once you do it there is no taking it back so consider the potential effect it may have on you current relationship
Yang replies
Julie I must say this is a strange relationship you are in with this guy, but honestly if he is unconcerned with the idea of you having another relationship then my advice is to ship him out fast.
Its no wonder that you are having fantasies of affairs with other women, you must be craving excitment.
I myself am bi so go for it and don't tie you life down with someone to dozy to appreciate a sexy fun loving woman
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