Rebecca asks :
Im 18 and I've recently just found out that I'm pregnant with my boyfriend of 5 months ive known him since i was 12 and we have always been such good friends, it wasn't planned as I had been told I was actually infertile, due to this I plan to keep this child. But I feel so lonely, only me and my partner know. But he just never seems to be there for me and I'm scared I will have to care for this child on my own. He's done a lot wrong already and I'm too weak/naive to ever not forgive him. I don't know what I'm suppose I do? Please help, Thanks, Rebecca.
Yin replies
Yin / Tyler
Why have you decided not to tell anyone? Perhaps you could speak to friends and family and ask them to help you out in the situation. You will need a good support mechanism around you in order to cope. Why do you feel he is not going to be there for you? It could be that he is scared as it is a huge change in your life, maybe give him some time to adjust and he may suprise you.
Yang replies
Yang / Lydia
You need to think of not only youself but a whole other person now. If he is not treating you right and is not there for you and the baby, then you need to consider if he will be a good role model, father and partner? If not then you need to seriosly think about your future together. You may have known him for a long time but that does not automatically mean he will be there for you at this moment when you need him most. Many women report feeling stronger after having children given that they have to protect thier own. Perhaps see how you feel when the baby is born and if you feel that you can stand up to him when he is in the wrong then you may react differently to the situation.
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