Anna asks :
Hi Lucy,
Just had an argument over the phone with my boyfriend about the most awkward thing- money. I spent the last hour fretting over it and feeling bad. I decided to ring him and just clear the air because I hate it when we fight. He answered on the third call and is in his friend's house, He said he'd ring me back later. He's obviously not too worried about it. Should I wait for his call or be strong for once?
Our Reply
Hi Anna,
Money can cause a lot of friction in relationships- usually about not having enough or spending habits of the man or woman in the couple.
It is good that you wanted to clear the air with him, there is nothing worse than letting a fight linger. If he doesn’t sound too worried about it then there is probably no reason for you to be too. Yes there does need to be one person in the couple who is a little more careful than the other to rein them in sometimes when they are frivolous with money, but if he isn’t that worried perhaps it’s not as bad as you think.
Or if it is that he is distracting himself, I would suggest giving him tonight and then talk about it when you have both had time to think about things. Distraction for a little while is sometimes what you need, however is money problems are really bad then you will need to sit down pretty sharpish and come up with a solution.
Good luck,
Lucy x
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