Anne asks :
Hi Lucy, My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for the past 2 years.Now we want to marry but my parents discourage me. What am I to do?
Our Reply
Hi Anne, thanks for getting in touch.
Legal marriageable age is 18, so whether your partner wants to get married or not, he is not legally allowed and neither are you. You are still very young and aspiring to get married when you are older is a healthy thought, but right now just show your commitment to each other by being an exclusive couple.
There is a lot of expense and planning involved with a wedding that you will be glad not to have deal with for the next few years. Your parents will likely disapprove because 2 years together is not long at all, especially at your age and you haven’t had the chance to decide what you would like to do beyond school.
Decide what you want to do with yourself after school- whether it is going to college or an apprenticeship. You have not mentioned at all what you want from this- just how your parents and your partner feel so think of yourself too! Live your life while you have options and leave bigger commitments like marriage for when you have experienced a bit more from your future.
The worst thing would be if you looked back at this time in your life and regretted your decision because you made it based on someone else’s wishes.
If you need to talk to someone further I would suggest you call Childline who can offer further advice and support for you.
Please get back in touch if you have any further quesitons,
Good luck,
Lucy x
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