Anonymous asks :
Im confused,,i kissed my boyfriends cousin/best friend in poland, 2 months back,,and well i always thought we had a thing or some chemistry and i know him and i think he is too afraid to tell me,,, and im crazy about him,,i love my boyfriend but i just cant get this other guy out of my head and my dreams are telling me that i shud be with him,,,but today i found out that he might be getting together with a friend of ours and its breaking my heart should i say anything to his friend or just leave it
Yin replies
Perhaps the reason why you can’t get him out of your head is because things have been not so good with your boyfriend recently. It is tempting to look around you and see the connection you have with others and wonder if the grass would be greener if things are not so great with your current relationship.
If you love you boyfriend you should not have kissed him- as your actions are not in keeping with your words. If you really feel like you could make a go of it with this guy, then you need to tell your boyfriend and stop going behind his back.
Yang replies
If you tell this friend about your feelings and what happened in Poland it is all bound to come out so if you decide to do this then you need to come clean first. Remember that if you do decide to get with him, you will not only be breaking up a relationship but also a friendship too. Think long and hard if this is actually what you want before making any decisions.
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