Anonymous asks :
Hi Lucy,
I met this boy and I fell in love with him but I never got to know if he felt the same way because of our big age gap he never told me anything. Anyway, time has passed and now he is getting married to my sister even though he knows the way I feel about him. How do I get over a guy I never even dated? But that's not all of it. This problem just gets even more complicated because that guy’s friend likes me but I don't see him as anything more than a friend. He has always been like a brother to me, but I don't want to break his heart. What should I do? Help!?!
Our Reply
If he is marrying your sister then he will likely be part of your life for a long time. It is more likely to be an infatuation, it is hard to love someone when you haven’t been in a relationship with them so perhaps you like the idea of him more? Getting over something like this is hard, but the key is distraction- the more you distract yourself, move on with your life the easier it will be to realise that you can live without feeling this way for him. Go out with your mates, get a hobby, anything so your attention is diverted. Before you realise it, the feelings will reduce.
In terms of the other guy, it is better to be up front with him the longer he thinks he might have a chance, the more hurt he will be when you tell him. Nip it in the bud so you can try to concentrate on being friends. If he cares about your enough he will try to do the same.
Lucy x
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