Blair asks :
I recently met this guy in a new area i moved to and we have been seeing each other for almost 2 months now. Unintentionally we have spent a lot of time together but I have grown to like him quickly and he has grown to like and care about me just as much. He's really good to me and treats me like a lady should be treated. But already a few things that feel deceiving have come to light. He's not my boyfriend so i cant expect much from him but he treats me as if he was which is whats confusing me. I don't know wether to ignore the things that i'm not happy about or straight out ask him if we have an honest future together.
Yin replies
If this is something that you want then it's best to be honest. If you are in the same place then great and if you scare him away then you know that he is not the one for you or you can wait until he is in the right place. If you feel comfortable and can see a future with someone then there should be no issue in telling them how you feel.
Yang replies
It sounds like it is all great now, but being treat like that when you are not exclusive is very different from being treat like that in a relationship. If you have found a man who treats you this well then don’t let him go, if he is willing to admit that he wants to take it to the next step too. If you have never broached the subject then the longer you wait the more awkward it will get. Perhaps find out where you stand to put your mind at ease.
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