Britney asks :
Hi Lucy,
A little while ago me and my best friend fell out and he said he didn't want to be best friends anymore and that we should see less of each other. I was fine with that but I couldn't help but feel hurt inside. I thought it was just the shock and so I didn't pay much attention to it. Now almost 3 months have passed and it doesn't seem to feel any better. Sometimes it’s like I can't breathe, I don't know what to do. Me and him still talk and we've remained friends but I can't help but feel a pain every time I talk to him or even look at him or a picture of him, I wonder now if I felt something more than friendship for him, and if I did what do I do because I don't want to mess things up between us again. Please help
Our Reply
Hi Britney, thanks for getting in touch.
It will hurt if you lost a friend that you were very close to; it could hurt just as much as if you had feelings for him. Three months is not that long to adjust to a huge change in a friendship, so give yourself some more time to heal.
It could be that you are thinking you had feelings for him because the hurt of losing him is more than you anticipated. I would suggest getting your friendship back up and running again and see where you stand there first. If he is still sore about the reason you dialled things back then telling him about possible feelings you might have for him will likely scare him off. Perhaps take small steps and wait until you feel like the fall out is behind you and then gauge how you feel from there.
Good luck,
Lucy x
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