Chloe asks :
Hi Lucy,
I'm worried I'm suffering with depression or something like that. My family say I'm just being dramatic, and my boyfriend suffers too when I'm in my down times, he even moans to others (even an ex) about me behind my back which makes things worse. I feel I really need to talk to people. I hate being alone and I feel alone most of the time, but feel like I'm just annoying everyone all the time. I usually feel like I won’t contribute much to the world, so what's the point in carrying on. I feel like I can't properly speak to anyone close to me about this so I cry myself to sleep at night telling myself I'm being silly and I don't have a problem that I'm just soft. I am writing to you because it’s getting too much and I don't know what to do. I've considered going to the doctors but I'm scared of getting judged or laughed at. What should I do?
Our Reply
Hi Chloe,
I would strongly suggest that you go to the doctors- they won’t judge you or laugh at you because this is a very common problem now- especially in young people. They will likely suggest that you see a counsellor- as this is usually the first port of call. Depending on your age you might be able to see a counsellor at school/ college or University too- just have a look on their website or go and see one of your teachers/ lecturers to ask them where you can receive help from.
If getting to the doctors is difficult at the moment- then I would definitely give The Samaritans a call- they offer 24/7 support for anyone in despair or distress and simply listen- no one will judge you or laugh at you when you call- simply listen to you while you need to talk.
You should seek help from one of the above to get you through if you feel that your family and boyfriend are not giving you the support you need right now. There are people out there who are willing to listen to you- so make the most of their services. And you don’t need to worry about contacting them after others are asleep too, because they will be there round the clock.
The Samaritans also run an email service- so just like you have written into me here- you can do the same with them. Phoning them will get you a quicker response, however if you feel better about writing things down then use this method instead.
They also run a drop in service so if you find your local branch on the internet- then you can find where they are based and go in and ask to see someone.
Please get back in touch if you have any more questions.
Lucy x
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