Hi Piper,

This does sound very confusing for you, when you have been friends for so long, so are bound to be very unsure times.

Do you find excuses because you’re worried about your friendship or because you don’t actually want to be with him in that way?

He revealed some very strong feelings for you and if you are not in the same place then it’s ok. Couples fall in love at different times, so there is no pressure to say it when you don’t mean it. Many couples still survive, even if they reach falling in love months apart from one another.

If you just want to be his friend then it’s probably best to talk to him about this sooner rather than later. If he already thinks he is in love with you then staying with him will only make his attachment to you stronger. This will in turn make breaking up with him even harder.

If it's all or nothing with you both, then maybe you need to put all your efforts into maintaining your friendship. If you put too much pressure on yourself in the relationship then you might end up getting into something too fast or something that you feel you can’t escape.

If you just want to be friends at least you can say that you gave things a go to find out if there as anything more in this for you. So neither of you will be left wondering ‘what if’?