Hi Bekki,

This sounds very frustrating for you when all you want to do is provide the best possible start for your baby.

The frustration might lie in the tradition that when the mum is at home caring for the baby it is an expectation for the dad to go out and work to put food on the table. As old fashioned as it might sound- this is something that men tend to feel is their responsibility when their partner is not able to work yet. For whatever reason your partner does not appear to carry this burden.

Have you tried talking to him about this calmly? If you begin with an argument or accusation then he might just shut down and not try to hold a conversation with you. Perhaps you could help him to find work? Sit down with him and help him renew his cv and proof read his application. A lot of the time not looking for jobs is down to lack of confidence- perhaps if your faith in him starts at home this might give him the boost he needs to start actively looking.

Remember that this is a very difficult time for most couples and one for adjustment- arguments are expected as you both become accustomed to your new life with a new addition to your family unit.