Julie asks :
Hi Lucy,
How can I get my boyfriend of 4 years to break up with me?
Hi Julie,
Agony Aunts on Female First
Perhaps don’t wait for him to break up with you or encourage it. Maybe you could initiate the break up if you are certain that you don’t want to be with him anymore.
Coming up with ways to get him to break up with you is a game playing exercise that no-one appreciates in a relationship, even more so when it's towards the end of one.
It has admittedly been a long relationship, however, the longer you wait, the more time you are wasting, when you could be looking for someone else, or enjoying the single life.
Why not ask to talk to him about your relationship and tell him what you have not been happy with lately? Perhaps he is feeling the same but doesn’t want to hurt you by initiating it. He might think that parting ways is also a good idea. If you are worried about hurting his feelings then perhaps try and go about this considerately and let him down gently.
In break ups, often people are more sympathetic to the person who has been dumped, however, if this is the only thing holding you back then perhaps you need to worry less about what people think.
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