Jack asks :
Hi Lucy,
I really like this woman but she told my mate she doesn't like me in that way after I asked her out on a date. I really like her and can't stop thinking about her how can I prove myself?
Hi Jack,
Agony Aunts on Female First
If there is no instant attraction there on her part, then perhaps leave it there. It may not be everything but it certainly helps in the earlier stages of relationships.
Perhaps the reason you want her so badly is because she doesn't see you in the same way you see her and you feel determined to change her mind. You should not have to prove yourself to anyone- the right person should accept you for who you are not who they want you to be. It sounds like this woman may not be the right fit for you.
If you feel that she lied to your friend then perhaps you can ask her why she said 'no' to your offer of a date and this might help you in future when you inevitably ask other women out. That said, she will be giving her opinion and not all women will think like her.
Maybe the reason you can't stop thinking about her is because you don't know the reason why she didn't want to go out with you and you are questioning yourself- but everyone is different. What works for her in a partner might be entirely different for what works for the next woman.
It might help you put in some time with your mates to try and take the focus off her. Perhaps a dating site or event might help you to meet other women who you don't have to prove anything to and can just be yourself with.
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