Makeupgirl asks :
Hi Lucy,
I have this friend who I really like, I think he's the one. I am well known and he is very quiet and lacks socialising skills. However when he's with me, he can tell me anything without feeling uncomfortable and I feel as though he likes me too. I thought at first he didn't really want me being around him because he felt as though I was too different. I avoided him after, but this didn’t seem to be the case; he was upset that I avoided him and we spoke again. Sometimes I feel like he wants to just be friends and sometimes something more.. What should I do?
Hi Makeupgirl,
Agony Aunts on Female First
If you think he is the one then perhaps you owe it to yourself to find out if he feels the same way. If you are the one who is well known and are more forward than he is then perhaps you should be bold and ask him how he feels about you.
You may be different and act different around other people but if you find that you can talk very openly to one another when you are together and being with you brings him out of his shell then there is something there. It’s just a matter of what. He might have wanted you back in his life because he values your friendship. If he is giving you mixed signals then he might be just as confused as you are about the definition of your relationship. This might explain why he isn't committing to one behviour or the other when he is with you to protect his pride.
At least this way you will know and be able to explore being a couple or carry on as you are being friends.
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