Isabelle asks :
HI Lucy,
I can't get my work colleague out of my mind! We have slept together twice but he is married and there are rumours he is seeing someone else in the office. I know it's wrong but I can't help myself. How do I stop feeling like I want him? Help!
Our Reply
Hi Isabelle, thanks for getting in touch!
My first piece of advice is to stop sleeping with him, even if he approaches you again. You are setting yourself up for hurt by doing it if the rumours are true and because he is married.
It is difficult as you will likely see him every day but I would suggest that you think about how awful you would feel if you carried on as you are, and falling for him more and more each time.
Only for him to tell you that he is having a causal fling with someone else in the office or that he won’t leave his wife. Throw yourself into your work and try to forget about him. There is nothing that will distract you more than a new romance so why not look into dating again and finding a new man to direct your affections towards.
You already know that he is not trustworthy as he is cheating on his wife, so what would make you think that he would stay faithful to you?
If you could carry on having sex with him but detach yourself from it, then that would be a solution but it seems that you are past that point now.
Good luck,
Lucy x
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