kayla mikaelson asks :
Dear Aunt Aggie, We have a problem with our parents! They're very nice and I know they only want to do what is best for us but they don't understand that we're no longer babies. They don't think we can make decisions for ourselves! They interfere with everything we do and object to all our friends. They don't even let us choose our own clothes! Our parents already decided on our futures: they want me to become a nurse and my sister a teacher. They're really old-fashioned and don't understand how young people think. Please anwser our letter! If our parents keep treating us like children, I don't know what we'll do! Unhappy sisters
Yin replies
The reality is they will never stop caring about you and interfering, because they have been responsible for you since you came into the world and no parent lets go when their child hits 18. It’s a lifetime commitment to look out for you.
At your age, you might be tempted to do and say things to fit in with other people which can potentially lead to trouble, and is what your parents are likely afraid of. What is it about your friends that they might dislike?
So long as your clothes are not inappropriate for your age and size, perhaps suggest that you opt for something different next time you are shopping. If they are not convinced try them on and show them that you could do with a new look. Or buy something more to your liking with your pocket money?
Yang replies
Every parent wants their child to aim for a career that is respectable and pays well, so they can be comfortable in the knowledge that you will be able to provide for yourself and be happy in your work. If you find yourself being drawn towards another career choice, then perhaps aim for that instead. If you are pushed into studying something that your heart is not in then you will likely perform less well because the passion is not there to drive you. You still have time to choose what you will take at college so don’t worry about this too much at the moment and pick what is right for you when the time comes.
All parents are old fashioned because they are from a different generation to us so you will always have conflicting viewpoint son a whole manner of issues. Try not to let every disagreement end up in an argument as they will shut down and always say no, if you are reasonable in your requests, you may just get somewhere!
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