kisha asks :
I am in a unhappy in a relationship my boyfriend of 5 years had lied to me about his status he is married but he said he is separated when i ask how long have he been separated from his wife he couldn't even tell me to top it all of he has to children with her. I have three children we get into arguments about all the time. And don't know what to do i need little advice in this situation. I am 26 and he is 40.
Yin replies
If you are unhappy and you always argue perhaps it is time to leave him. He has lied to you about hugely important things, which means he could have lied to you about smaller things too. Relationships are built on trust and how can you do so if he has not been honest with you right from the beginning? You may have been together for a long time but it has been built on a lie.
Yang replies
If you are arguing about your children, this is not something that is going to be resolved; you children will always be there with you. If you keep arguing around them this is not providing a very stable upbringing for them.
Ask him to come clean and tell you everything or go. Make a new life for you and your children with someone who you can trust and who will respect you enough to be truthful about everything.
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