liss asks :
hi , me and my ex boyfriend have always been good friends we split up three years ago which was my decision during those three years we have slept together on many occasions mainly when we have been out on a night out,recently i had slept with someone else he found out and told me he was jelous and that night we ended going back to his,ever since that night we have gone back with eachother on the weekend i began to have feeling for him again and all of his friends were saying to me he likes you because he will just do anything to be near you on a night out,in the week we dont see each other if we text its me texting him and the conversation isnt great,this confused me so i then asked him what was going on he said we are just mates so i was a little pissed of with this but then that weekend we went back together again as he was the one who was all over me. alot has happend in this last week he has been funny with me all week so i asked him and his reply was we cant keep going on like this i want to find some one and that isnt you =( i dont feel there is a spark between us anymore ...but then this weekend thats just gone i was out with mates in town and so was he we bumped into each other he couldnt even look at me in the eye no words were said i was so upset as he knows how i feel about him my friend spoke to him and said you cant treat her like this his reply was i no thats why i have said we cant go on like we were doing as she is a really nice girl, then through out the night i was talking to diffrent las he kept staring at me and ii spoke to one of his friends who im friends with he said he gets jelous when we speak and he didnt ant me speaking to any of his mates me and this mate started kissing and he found out he didnt say anything to me or his mate towards the end of the night he came over and said am i allowed to speak to you now i didnt say much as he knew i was so upset with him. i am so confused about how he feels and does he like me or is this him saying f off basically please help i would love to her what you think as this has been going on for a while now and i really like him thanks liss
Yin replies
You and him broke up for a reason and those reasons will still be there is you get back together. Sleeping with your ex always complicates things and this situation is no different. I suggest you stop sleeping with him and stop trying to get back together because you might get hurt for a second time.
Yang replies
This game playing back and forth is not only getting you anywhere but making the present really difficult for you and your friends. Look for someone else and make new memories with them, rather than dragging up old ones. He likes being friends with you because he doesn’t have to commit or put in any effort, all he gets from you is sex, which is ideal for him but not for you because you are better than a one night stand!
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