Hi Lulu,

I would suggest that you ask you friend’s boyfriend to back you up here. You don’t have to tell her that you have been reading her phone but the likelihood is that he will still have those massages on his phone.

I would ask her and him to have a get together and confront her about it or just take his phone with you. Try not to do it while you are feeling angry, just remain calm and ask her why she has been texting the things she has. She can’t deny it, as the proof will be right in front of her. She might have an issue with him showing you them in the first place but it goes without saying that if anyone is saying something bad about you; you want to know about it and why.

You may have done something to wrong her and she feels like she can’t tell you, if this is the case then you can put your point of view across.

Bitchiness usually comes from a feeling of unhappiness inside and so you try to make yourself feel better by making others look worse. Or because you are jealous of someone and try to put them down. The problem will likely begin with her but she is taking it all out on you. If you have been friends for a while- if she apologises then perhaps give her a second chance.  If she walks away then you know that perhaps your friendship has come to end, if she can’t even be decent enough to give you an explanation.

Lucy x