Hi Catherine,

If you are intent on not being friends with her anymore then perhaps talk to her. Tell her that you are different people now and have come to a fork in the road and you want different things and have different priorities. Express that you feel it’s time to go your separate ways.

Often people who are self-centred lacked the attention when they were young or the opposite; were always the centre of attention at home and so have carried on craving it in later life. There are always explanations for why people are the way there are. She may not be doing it to offend you, it might just be the way she is.

If she is clingy, it sounds like she might be insecure. Clingy people tend to latch onto someone that they envy or that they admire- it might be that she is jealous of you. Whatever the reason if there is a part of you that could forgive her behaviour then try talking to her about it. If you feel that her clinginess is too much, ask her to dial things back a bit.

Some people don’t recognise things until you tell them. So maybe highlight that she is self-centred and that she needs to consider not only her own needs but other’s too to keeps relationships like yours going.

Either way- it starts with a conversation. If you simply stop all contact or blow up at her because she had pushed you to breaking point things might get out of hand. So a mature conversation will help lay everything out on the table as to how you feel.

Lucy x