Rebecca asks :
i don't think i'm attracted to anybody. my friends always go on about how attractive certain people are and i just dont seem to have sexual feelings about people. i have always been described as being naive and young for my age, i'm 17, and the thought of getting older absolutely terrifies me, so could it just be that i'm not ready for relationships yet or that this is my brains stupid way of convincing myself i'm still a kid? i'm worried that there is something wrong with me, i'm worried that i will always be alone. is this normal?
Yin replies
Sexual attraction can come over people at varying ages, so there is nothing to worry about. If you a have a strong friendship and family relationships then sometimes there is no need to have a romantic side to your life if you are fulfilled by the existing people that are around you.
Yang replies
Getting older terrifies most people; there is nothing to be ashamed of in having this fear. If you are young for your age, so be it, growing up too fast can be to the detriment of some people because all of their experiences are over in a much shorter space of time, ones that you haven’t even embarked on yet. Try and see it as a positive rather than a negative because you still have these milestones to look forward to!
Relationships can be complicated at the best of times and if you don’t feel ready for one this will only complicate things further. Perhaps keep things simple until you have the urge to seek come romance in your life!
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