Lewis asks :
Hi Lucy,
I’ve never done anything like this before so bear with me. My partner and myself have a strong relationship and I wanted to do something really special (and also a little humorous). We are both obsessed with candy crush and I would like to dress up as one of the candies for a bit of bedroom role play. My problem is my partner is more into romance and it could very easily go the other way. Is it worth the risk? Or should I be comfortable that I can act whatever way I please? Please help! Thanks, Lewis
Hi Lewis,
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Why not ask her generally about role play and try to gauge her opinion of it and if she is interested in trying it at some point in your relationship. Like you say it could go either way, so maybe do a bit of background work first.
Perhaps you could try with something more traditional and either work towards something silly or alternate between silly and sexy.
It sounds like you have come up with this idea because it will take the pressure off and if things don’t go to plan, maybe you can just brush them off rather than them opening a can of worms if you try something more serious and it goes wrong.
If it’s both something that you love then maybe she will be touched if you have thought to make your first outfit something meaningful rather than stereotypical.
Perhaps you can gauge her mood and if she is in a playful mood then you could bring out the outfit, and she is a more romantic mood then act accordingly.
Just because you do a bit of daft role play now and again does not mean that the romantic side to your relationship is immediately over. If you do decide to do it then it might be in your favour to still romance her so she is confident that the part she loves is not going to disappear.
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