Kim asks :
Hi Lucy,
I have been going out with my boyfriend for 5 months now, and I love him so much. It will soon be his birthday in about 2 weeks’ time and I have already bought him his presents. But I also like my ex who I went out with for 2 months who lives about 2 hours away, but I see him regularly because our families are very close. He treats me so much better than my current boyfriend does, but I’m not sure which one I like more. I have felt this way for 3 weeks and I'm still unsure on who I like more. My ex likes me in this way too and knows I have to choose between the two of them. I don't know what to do or who I like more all I know is that my ex treats me better and makes me happier. Please help me on who's better for me thanks, Kim
Hi Kim,
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The question you probably need to ask yourself is why did you break up with your ex? Whatever the reason- would this problem come back? Or are you both committed to trying really hard not to let whatever it was break you two apart again?
Will you be able to manage a long distance relationship with him even if you do get to see him regularly because of your family? Could you have some time apart when he comes home?
Perhaps the reason he is showing any interest is because he is jealous that you have moved on and maybe he hasn’t?
If he treats you better than your current boyfriend then this is a very important thing for a woman to feel. If you current boyfriend does not treat you well have you talked to him about it? If not then perhaps you need to address this in your current relationship before making any decisions. You went out with your ex for 5 months and your current partner for 2- maybe you need to give your new man more of a chance to step up.
That said, if you feel that his behaviour is very inappropriate and that he won’t change his attitude towards you and the way her treats you, then it might be time to say goodbye and then decide what you want to do with your ex, with a single head on your shoulders.
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