Should I take my husband back after mental illness?

by Lucy Moore | 28 August 2014

Hi Lisa,

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I am not sure if you mean that your husband had the mental illness or you did, so I will answer from both angles.

If it’s you who has had the mental illness, it all depends if you feel ready to invite your relationship back into your life again. Will he support you if you have any reoccurrence of your mental illness? If you feel he will then he might be a good person to have in your life again.  If you don’t then maybe you could stay as friends until you feel ready to focus on you both.

If it's your husband who has suffered then do you feel that you can offer him the stability and the patience he might need if his mental illness goes through phases of coming back?

Perhaps talk to him about your worries, whatever the case may be. He might have the same worries as you do, so it might help to be open and honest with him about your concerns.

Could you suggest some counselling for him or apply for it yourself if you are unsure about your future relationships? Maybe this is an indicator that you possibly are not ready yet and need to prepare more for love again. Or perhaps you feel he still needs some professional attention before he is ready to come back.

No relationship is without its bumps in the road and every husband or wife has to be there for their spouse at some point. It all depends if you love each other enough to be a crutch while the other is going through a rough spot.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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by Lucy Moore for relationships.femalefirst.co.uk
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