What should I do about my unhappy relationship?

by Lucy Moore | 20 November 2014

Hi Sarah,

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The first thing I would ask is why are you unhappy? If you are going to talk to your partner, then I would suggest that you have a think about the areas of your relationship that are not working for you so you have something to work with.

The second thing is to talk to your partner- they might not realise that you are unhappy- so it could take you to tell them for them to sit up and see that something is wrong. Try not to shout or get angry, but tell them calmly your side of things- points made in anger often make a partner shut down or get angry back, neither of which is helpful when you are trying to fix an issue in a relationship. 

Hear their side. If you have kept this bottled up for a long time- then you may have only thought of things from your point of view. Try to hear them out and take into consideration how they might be feeling about your honesty but also the relationship in general.

Then perhaps you could come together to figure out how you can try and gain some of that happiness back. It will take both of you to do so- not just one- so if you are both intent on making this relationship work, then I would suggest that you each make the effort to get back on track.

If after you have tried to help your situation, it is still not working, then perhaps some relationship counselling could help you here. If not, then it may be that together you make each other unhappy and apart you could lead much happier lives. That is a decision for you both to make once you have discussed your options. The first step in either scenario is to ask your partner for some time to explore with them why you are feeling unsatisfied with your pairing right now. 

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by Lucy Moore for relationships.femalefirst.co.uk
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