Helen asks :
Hi Lucy,
I have a gut feeling something is wrong but my husband says we are ok.
Hi Helen,
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I would first ask yourself if you are a person who always thinks the worst- you may be looking for something that's not there and worrying unnecessarily.
I would suggest you also ask yourself what has given you this gut feeling- has he been distant? Less affectionate? Moody? Whatever it is then it might be worth mentioning your reasons when you talk to him about it rather than asking what's wrong as he may be more inclined to open up if you can give him examples.
If he is faced with this evidence then he might offer up an explanation. It could be something unrelated to your relationship that he has been bottling up- about work for instance.
Even if it's not about you and him but something else- he should feel that he can talk to you about it because communication is the foundation of any successful relationship.
Perhaps you have settled for his answer of 'we are ok' for long enough and would like to delve deeper.
Maybe, as mentioned above you might be reading too much into his behaviour- that said trusting your gut is often an enlightening exercise.
Relationships do go through periods of good and bad so perhaps even if there is nothing majorly wrong, you need to talk more about how you can work together to be more than just 'ok'.
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