Christopher asks :
Hi Lucy,
I like women but I have sexual fantasies about men I also watch gay porn and enjoy it I have also have had phone sex with men and I wondering what this means?
Hi Christopher,
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I could mean a couple of things- you could just be curious, gay or bisexual.
There is nothing wrong with experimenting until you decide your sexuality; it’s just what feels right for you.
Perhaps find your local LGBT community; attend a few meetings and mix with other people who feel that they are at the same crossroads as you. If you find a group of people who you feel comfortable talking to, then it should make the process a bit easier for you.
If you watch a lot go gay porn and have enjoyed phone sex with men then perhaps you are leaning more towards men than women. You say you like women- in what way? Maybe you appreciate their beauty but don’t find them sexy? Or perhaps you have not found a woman who makes you feel the way you do about the men you have come into contact with?
Whatever you decide all I would suggest is finding people to explore this with who you trust and will help you reach you reach a point where you know who it is your want. You don’t have to label yourself, sometimes it’s just down to a person and whether you feel you have a connection with them or not.
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