Karen asks :
Hi Lucy,
Me and my partner have not been getting on for some time now. We argue every other week and when we do we do not talk for days. He goes out till late and does not help with our kids. I believe deep down he's cheating but not sure please help me. I'm at breaking point as we have been together for 5 years and I love him with all my heart.
Hi Karen,
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It sounds like your main issue could be communication, or lack thereof. If you are communicating with each other via arguments more than talking and then following this up with silence, maybe you need to go back to basics and talk to each other calmly and try to put your anger to one side.
Arguing and silence often get you nowhere- as this can cause you both to say things you don’t mean and then not allow yourselves to apologise or deconstruct the reasons for the flare up in the first place.
Could you suggest that you attend some counselling if you feel you need some support with this? If you still love him then it seems that you are willing to make the effort to make this work- so maybe some outside support could help you on your path to better communication.
You have children to think of two so trying to get back on track is not just for you both but your kids too. Maybe you could arrange some time alone first to try and find the cause of your constant arguing and try to put some things in place to avoid them or navigate around your problems in a different way. Once you feel that things are getting better then perhaps try to spend some more time together as a family to remind him what he’s missing by going out so late.
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