Sasha asks :
Hello Lucy,
I am Sasha I am 21 and I still haven't found my prince. I know that the right one will come to me at a right time. But it's hard to wait. Sometimes I just think that yeah he is the one and suddenly everything is gone. What to do? I am losing my mind.
Hi Sasha,
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It sounds like you have dated lots of people who are wrong for you and it has affected your confidence in men and dating as a whole.
To find a prince unfortunately you often have to kiss a lot of frogs, so try not to see it as something they have taken away from you but more so something you have gained- a better knowledge of the person you don't want to be with. Every ended relationship is a learning curve, not a loss.
Try not to put so much pressure on yourself by fixating on an age to achieve this goal by or you will only set yourself up for disappointment. You can certainly make yourself more proactive when it comes to dating by going speed dating or joining a reputable online dating site for instance, however don't settle for the first one that comes along just because of perceived time restraints or social pressures.
Maybe try to enjoy all the positives of single life- such as your friends, your family; thinking of your needs first- to be a good partner to someone you must first of all be secure when you are alone.
You could invest some time in your dating life too- but perhaps not as much as you have been if it has taken over your every waking thought. If you get a good balance between the two then this might help take your focus off finding a partner to the same extent, so when it does happen then it's more organic rather than being forced.
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